There is this particular girl i know, I will not exactly call her a friend but a good girl who confided in me, am happy to have known her because she was drowning and right now i don't know how she feels but i hope i was able to help out where i could.
Tsunami is her name, she is a girl who has been reserved almost all her life, this girl doesn't remember the last time she smiled or even held a serious talk with anyone. She was defiled by someone she knew as her cousin who was in form three and she was nine years old class three by then. I know what you are thinking very young right? Well it happened and it's happening to many other other girls out there and it has happened to many others too who have not spoken about it and have not had a chance to talk about it because they don't have a "friend" in any one to talk to. They feel so dirty and embarrassed to speak about this shameful act.
Those who get a chance to talk about it do talk about it but in most cases remain dissatisfied, i would advise professional help. Tsunami does get moody at times and doesn't want to talk to anyone but i believe its because of the nightmare she faced many years ago. She has never spoken about it not even with her own mum. She gets so angry at times even with her mum sending her for something. I don't know if it's this particular nightmare that makes her resentful to her mother or there is something else she wants to talk about but she can't. It hurts and i see the rage in her eyes, i can tell she hurts so much. She silently cries in her bed some times before she sleeps, a lot happened that can never be undone. I just pray that some day she can learn to break the chains of her misery and trust again because i understand that as a growing girl she was a very sweet girl who was loved by everyone and now she feels like she doesn't deserve anyone. She is so pushy she drives friends out of her life and it's affecting her. It almost broke her relationship with a guy who really loves her.
Tsunami has a dark story that i will tell you about in bits so that you can try to help her opinion wise, i will try and get to her as i have always done but this girl is lost and drowning especially because she never got professional help after the nightmare befell her. Parents should protect their children.
Watch out more stories about tsunami for they will be coming in time by time till we can all help her.
That fateful night, Aunt Debi had traveled to Dubai when Joseph took advantage of Tsunami.
That night Tsunami went to bed as usual and they were told to sleep in the super market by aunt Debi so as to kind of keep it from thieves. Tsunami slept but in her sleep she felt like someone was watching her and when she opened her eyes she could see someone standing by her bed side, it was Joseph. She thought some thing was wrong so she asked him is he was OK and he said he wasn't. He jumped on her and everything happened so fast. Joseph raped Tsunami and no one learn t about it. Till today Tsunami is still under this nightmare and it has changed her completely, moody, not tolerant and very serious with life. No man plays with her emotions.
Very many people suffer in the hands of rapists. Though many rapists are men, it is a growing concern that many men are also falling prey and often, particularly children. Sometimes I wonder what the community needs to do to holistically address this problem. The long term psychological and social impact of rape is one that takes a lifetime to heal and often, minor things that would ordinarily mean nothing become trigger points, reminding the survivors of their worst ordeal. Sometimes the community too fails to take cognizance of this and continuous victimize the survivors either through their attitudes and actions or even in-actions e.g social isolation.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it is time to try restorative justice too also afford the perpetrators the opportunity to learn about the impact of their actions, show remorse and seek forgiveness. This could also bring healing to survivors...just thinking!!!
Thank you so much Joash for this great knowledge and we hope, tsunami can be able to over come her fears and anguish of the nightmare that befell her.
ReplyDeleteLovely piece highlighting the plight of Tsunami.
ReplyDeleteIndeed we must have ways in which we can assist the likes of Tsunami. Here Tsunami maybe our sisters, wives, mothers, daughters or even brothers to some extent.
Regulations and policies must be enhanced to assist the affected, protect our children and more so prosecute the individuals or groups that commit this.
Mzee Kantu do u know how or can you highlight on some of the things we can do to protect our children from such issues? From the shameful acts?
ReplyDeleteLove your blog n posts,speaking the reality of,the society is full of dark spots,someone needs to shed light by teaching the society.
ReplyDeleteIf i ever find that piece of shit that raped that little girl I'll tie him up in a hole and slowly cut body parts of while burning the wounds to keep him alive for years as i torcher him.
ReplyDeleteAt the end of his life I'll push a large wooden spike up his ass with extremely rough edges and keep ripping it out until he dies of what he did to that wonderful little girl.
Its very horrible what people do to others but some times i think we have to forgive and move on though it was long ago i wish the person could get arrested.
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